touch – memories of the present
When I was a teenager, I used to be part
of a dance theatre group. We spent a quite intense time together – regarding
the physical training, but also including the emotional aspects. Today, nights
in old factories, where we trained dancing, many controversial performances,
physical exhaustion and festivals all over Europe belong to my memory,
especially to my physical one. Five
years after leaving the group I still consider myself being a person connected
to my body, lucky to be raised in this creative environment, allowed to join a
universe, which many people in our society might never discover – the universe
of touch.
This month, a participant of the theatre
group randomly joined for a contact-improvisation jam, where I was also dancing.
We haven’t met or seen each other for five years.
I remember him entering the space. He had
changed, grown, become more mature and stronger, still radiating out the same
positive spirit, he always kept. We used to dance together in theatre times,
but being with him after five years did not feel different at all. It didn’t
take us more than one second to reconnect and dance together. We played like
children, as we always did, including the aspects of two humans, who
nevertheless grew up. I felt safe and protected, trusting this person without
any hesitation.
This is the reason, why I believe physical
memories to last longer and clearer than verbal ones. In this moment of dancing,
I realized that my friend has left invisible traces on my body during theatre
times, like a stamp and instinctively I would react in a precise and accurate
way. I am sure, that talking to this person wouldn’t have the same effect as
dancing with him again. Our bodies had learned to trust each other years ago –
there was no need to ask about today again.
This inspires me to think that touching
has a greater impact on our physical memory – more than many of us would
assume.
And the other way around – we can
influence people more by touching than by talking.
But what is this thing called ‘touch’?
There are three things in life we
constantly do without necessarily thinking about them: we breathe, our hearts
beat and – we touch!
We breathe and touch the first day we are
here on earth. But even though these aspects accompany us every day, we aren’t
always aware of them.
some science beyond touching
My skin is 1,62 square meters large and
the biggest organ in my body. It never stops working, which implies, that I am
always touched.
What happens during touching? If a person
touches me, sensory cells transform the stimulus into an electric signal, to be
sent towards my medulla and from there – into my brain. There, a region we call
the “thalamus” filters the information and forwards it towards an area called
primary motor cortex, where signals can be analyzed.
Some of this information doesn’t need to
be processed so far – reflexes. Imagine you touch something hot or have to
react really fast; it would take too much time to send the signal to your
brain, so the medulla itself deals with the signal and decides about the
reaction.
This is just a short introduction into
neuroscientific pathways – but it might help us to imagine how touch is
flooding our body in every second of our life.
But touch can be more, than only physical
touch.
environmental touch
The world we live in has a greater impact
on us, than we might think. Imagine you are walking through a forest. The fresh
air touches your face, while your feet have to conquer an unstable underground.
The temperature changes if you leave a house and go outside. There are so many
stimulus around us, we can’t control.
Nevertheless they have an impact on our perception, decisions we take
and feelings we have.
physical touch
When we touch someone we enter his
intimate zone, we can sense the smell of this person, the temperature of the
other body and many more impressions. Being so close to someone else prevents
us from the possibilities of protecting ourselves. Our body might then trigger
a “fight or flight” response. This might be one reason, why we don’t feel safe
to touch strangers – but enjoy touching people we love.
Touch offers us a different, clearer
option to communicate with each other. Words have to be interpreted and have a
different meaning for each of us. On the other hand, the signals your body
sends out are always honest. Imagine a situation in which you have to deal with
fear. If someone asks you about how you feel, you might say “I am not afraid”,
but your body would still send out the signals of a person who is afraid:
shaking knees, stomach aches, pale face etc. Focusing the body signals might
help us to receive a more precise image about a person’s intention.
emotional touch
I can be touched in many ways, also in
mental ones. Watching an emotional movie can touch me, a love confession or
just a situation I observe on the street. To be able to be touched is one of
the greatest gifts we could receive, because it makes our life more colorful
and creative. In contrast – some people who suffer from depression have trouble
to experience these feelings caused by their outside world.
future perspectives//unintentional touch
Touch is one of the most important
experiences of our life, for children it symbolizes the connection to their
mothers and for lovers or friends it might create an intimate and private
sphere. Regarding today’s society, touch however is a rare phenomenon to
observe. We excuse us, when we accidentally touch strangers, for most people
only two ways of touching exists: shake hands or have sex. Many are unaware of
the options in between such as hugging or stroking. Studies found out, that
there are correlations between psychological problems and people’s missing
physical communication.
Another aspect is: many people learned to
touch in order to receive a physical answer not because they enjoy the process
of touching itself. Unintentional touch is the way of touching we grew up with
and feel safe about. As we grow up, we learn to judge touching as sexual or
unappropriated, which creates unhealthy borders for those who are touched and
those who touch.
I hope that this idea of reinventing
unintentional touch might spread. It is not abnormal to cuddle with friends,
hug a colleague or hold someone’s hand. For us, touch offers the possibility to
enjoy a communication, not only dedicated to our brains, but being processed by
our entire body.
more: Trautmann-Voigt, S., & Voigt, B. (Eds.). (2012). Grammatik der Körpersprache: ein integratives Lehr-und Arbeitsbuch zum Embodiment; mit 18 Tabellen. Schattauer Verlag. (p.107ff)